Monday, July 28, 2014

Be who you are: a note about Catholic blogging this thing on?

I’ve been enjoying my lengthy summer blog break this year.  Well, technically I’ve been having one of the busiest summers I can ever remember; why did no one ever warn me that when your kids go to actual school summers become insane?  This is just more proof that I homeschooled mainly out of laziness and fear of bureaucracy.  Oh, and because homeschool graduation parties are awesome.  Yesterday my sweet sister-in-law hosted Bookgirl’s graduation party with a completely incredible cake-design which was perfect for a homeschool graduation:

But I want to resume blogging before the new school year starts, even though this year I will only be homeschooling one child.  Yes, that’s right: for the next two years, school will just be Hatchick and me, while the older two are off at college.  At least for this year the older two are commuting, and for her first semester Bookgirl is only going two days a week, so we won’t be completely lonesome!

And about ten days ago Catholic blogger extraordinare Sherry Antonetti received an email asking the question, “What does it mean to be a Catholic blogger?”  Her excellent answer is here, and she invited other bloggers to answer as well.  

When I look over Sherry’s list, I have to admit the second point, the one about using charity, is the one I struggle with the most.  It’s much easier to be snarky, to assume that people who disagree with the Church’s clear and ancient teachings are thundering dunderheads in need of a good scolding, than to try to meet people where they are and go from there.  It is especially hard to strike a charitable balance when you are commenting on an important issue knowing that some of your readers will agree with you completely, some may disagree slightly and point you to a fuller understanding of the Church’s teachings, some will disagree completely and claim there’s room for Catholic dissent on the issue (even when there really isn’t), and some will decide that attacking you personally is their best bet for combox revenge.  If you pull your punches too much, you may feel (as I sometimes do) that you are not speaking the truth with the fearlessness of a disciple, but if you come out swinging you may face the uncomfortable realization (as I also do) that you are looking for a bit of recreational outrage, and are more interested in scoring points than in winning hearts.

But the one point I would add to Sherry’s list is this one: Be who you are.

I’ve read blogs by people who are genuinely trying to find their Catholic blogging “voice” because they don’t really know what that voice will be yet.  I was there, once, too.  I kind of thought, way back when I started blogging, that the whole “Catholic homeschooling mommy blog” thing seemed fun.  And then my second post was about abortion, and so was my third, and along about the fifth one or so I waded into a comment-box battle going on over at another Catholic blogger’s place about the public chastising of a politician that took place during Mass, and the idea of a nice sweet little website to talk about workbooks and the dreaded Third Quarter Blues shimmered like a mirage and...well, it took a little while to vanish completely, but vanish it (eventually) did.

I retain a great deal of respect for the Catholic homeschooling mommy bloggers (and even the Catholic mommy bloggers who are not homeschooling in the least, except for the stuff the school makes them do with their kids at night and on weekends).  I respect the “sweetness and light” Catholic bloggers, and the “scholarly philosophical” Catholic bloggers, and the “wildly popular and occasionally dangerous” Catholic bloggers, and every other sort there is, too.  So long as they are each being who they really are, their blog will contain that ring of authenticity that is, I think, essential for a Catholic blog to have.

What I have trouble with are those Catholic bloggers who seem to keep trying to be something they are not, the ones who seem to look around and think, “Hmm, right now the Keeping It Real Catholic blogs are getting the most traffic, so I need to Photoshop (tm) some piles of dirty laundry into my living room and stick the baby in front of the garbage can the dog just knocked over--and I wonder, if I sprinkled pencil shavings on my baseboards, would they look authentically dusty?” etc.  Granted, most of us wouldn’t have to go to near that amount of trouble, but the point is that Keeping It Real blogs only work when the blogger is actually keeping it real.  If she has a cleaning lady who comes twice a week or is a total neat freak who frets when the vacuum lines disappear from the carpet, or if unfolded laundry in the living room would cause her to need therapy, then she is not Keeping It (or anything) Real by pretending to be a bit messy and disorganized, while thriving amidst the chaos.

And the same thing is true when Crafty Catholic Blogs get the most traffic, and people who are not the least bit crafty or artistic suddenly try to write posts about making fully functional mini-guillotine vegetable choppers out of wooden craft sticks and a repurposed razor, or something of the sort.  Or when Scholarly Philosophical Bloggers are all the rage, and people who mix up Plato and Play-doh(tm) on a regular basis try to wax eloquent about something, even if it’s just their thoughts while pondering a bowl full of tadpoles one of the kids is presently trying not to kill  raising on the kitchen counter for a homeschooling science experiment.  Or...well, you get the point, and the point is: be who you are.  Be yourself, even if you don’t share your whole self all the time on your blog (and who does?).

It’s quite natural for brand-new Catholic bloggers to experiment a bit with everything from blog platforms and templates to writing styles to the content they like to create.  But sooner or later you will come to learn what sort of things it seems more natural to write about, and what just doesn’t work for you.  And that’s terrific, because one of the great things about being Catholic is that we don’t all have to do it the same way.  Sure, we have things in common, huge, important things, like trying our best to follow Jesus, failing and sinning on a regular basis, and working to cultivate a love of Mass, the sacraments, prayer, devotions, and so on, all while figuring out our vocations and our specific challenges to bring Christ to the people around us (while remembering that snark rarely helps). But the Catholic blogosphere is one of the rare places where you might have one Catholic blogger who regularly posts about her love for vintage motorcycles, while another Catholic blogger shares his personal library of original chant-style compositions, while still another is wildly amazing in the fine art of birthday parties, and yet another sees a blog as something between a soapbox and a podium--and all of that is absolutely fine and dandy, because we’re Catholic, which means there’s room for all of us to be ourselves.

So my advice to new or novice or budding Catholic bloggers is just that--be who you are.  The temptation to follow the crowd is as present in the blogging world as it is anywhere else, as is the desire for popularity, but none of that will be worth much of anything if you spend all your time trying to be someone you aren’t.  Let your blog be a reflection of the unique person God made you to be, and you will be a Catholic blogger, and probably, before long, a friend to people you might otherwise never have known.

Monday, June 30, 2014

An apology...

I have, on occasion, been less than complimentary to the Supreme Court of the United States.

Today, however, I realize that I owe five of the nine justices a bit of an apology.

To the majority, then, I address this heartfelt apology:  Dear majority who ruled in favor of religious freedom today, I apologize if on occasion I have insinuated that the members of the present SCOTUS could not find their hindquarters even if provided with a map.  Today’s ruling in favor of Hobby Lobby proves that at least five of you can do so.  Even if the map has to be both detailed and narrowly constructed.

Still, I will--gratefully--take what I can get.  Every little bit that stands between religious believers and the tyranny of the secular majority counts.  A lot.

Now, protect the nonprofits coming your way, such as the Little Sisters of the Poor or EWTN, and you may earn an actual cheer.  Possibly even two.  (I am reserving three cheers for times when the Court appears to remember to read the actual Constitution before ruling, but to be honest, I don’t expect to see that in my lifetime.)

Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Checking in...

I feel like an absentee blogger these days!  On the bright side, I’m nearly finished with the mermaid/vampire young adult book I’m writing.  Next up: finishing Book Five of Tales of Telmaja while starting to edit Book Three.  Advanced reader team: you may be getting emails soon(ish) to ask you if you want a draft of Book Three sent your way!

If you haven’t found my books’ Facebook page, I think this will take you to Erin Manning, Tales of Telmaja on Facebook.  I’ve been posting regular updates about my writing endeavors as well as my mostly impossible goals there.

My plan is to resume regular blogging sometime in August, when it’s too hot to do much of anything anyway and people might be reading blogs again. :)  See you then!

Thursday, June 12, 2014

Happy Birthday, Hatchick!

Technically, I’m still on a bit of a blog break as I work to finish some writing projects and restore some much-needed sanity to the end-of-the school year homeschooling endeavors.  But today we are celebrating the 16th birthday of our beloved youngest girl, affectionately nicknamed “Hatchick” on this blog, and as is our custom I will turn the blog over to her to post whatever she likes!  Without further ado, then, here’s our birthday girl!


Hello, this is Hatchick!
So far 16 seems a bit different than 15, though I am not sure quite why. Today, I am having a lot of fun with my family, and a certain kitten is having a lot of fun with the blue streamers hung from here and there about the rooms. I am very excited to be 16!
Speaking of kittens, I have been having fun with the camera this year:

It’s Super Smidge!

...Emmett prefers to sleep.

These flowers showed up in our backyard near Easter. They were very small, about the size of a finger. I have no idea what they are, but they were pretty!

Action shot! I waited for a long while to catch a picture (and video, but it isn’t posted here) of these planes as they flew close-by in this formation!

I had hoped that there would be a lot of drawings that I could add here, but unfortunately it appears that I haven’t drawn nearly as much as I thought that I had this past year. Oh well. This picture is a picture of Team Rocket from Pokemon. I first did a sketch of the picture, then colored it with markers, and then uploaded it to the computer and colored it with Seashore.

Thank you so much for reading this post! I am looking forward to a great year!

Thursday, May 22, 2014

Getting back into fiction writing

I'm still attempting to get back into fiction writing on a regular basis.  The school year is drawing to a close; my second oldest will finish high school in a few weeks (yay!); and it's time I started setting some real deadlines for my two outstanding projects.

So, of course, I've decided to add a third.

It's not another Smijj/Telmaj book, actually.  It's a not-yet-completed story that reads a bit like an alternative universe Regency romance, except that it features evil mermaids, kind-but-slightly-nerdy vampires, and a human girl in the midst of all the faintly Gothic weirdness.

My daughters love this manuscript.  They keep begging me to finish it and make it available through Create Space.  So, even though I need to have Book Three in the Tales of Telmaja series edited and available for sale by late fall at the latest, and even though I need to finish the manuscript of book five, I am also working on finishing the as-yet untitled mermaid/vampire book, with a deadline for the completion of the first draft that is completely ridiculous.

Which is a long way of saying that I'm taking a blog break.  Like most of my breaks, it won't be total silence; I'm sure I'll have things to say.  But for the next few weeks, I won't be posting anything like daily.  For those of you who read my blog daily, your patience, as always, is greatly appreciated.

Wednesday, May 21, 2014

The wicked pro-gay marriage culture of stupidity rolls on

So, yet another pathetic judge dreaming of immortality, or at least recognition, decides to toss out Pennsylvania’s sane, sensible definition of marriage in favor of a mishmash of nonsense and offensive rhetoric.  Nobody takes His (dis)Honor apart more satisfactorily than Joe Grabowski in his open letter to the idiot judge:
You see, Your Highness - er, rather, Your Honor ... or, well, which do you prefer? A careful reading of your recent decision leaves me in doubt - I am one of those who believes that the institution of marriage is fundamental to the health of society, and that the family founded upon the union of husband and wife is the sine qua non of a healthy public order. I also believe that the "first of the firsts" of our rights as citizens - the right to free exercise of religion - is most threatened today by attacks upon this institution. Yet you, in your decision issued yesterday, wrote that laws defending this institution should be "discard[ed]... into the ash heap of history.”
That was, by the way, a fabulous turn of phrase. Did you write it, or a clerk? I hope no overtime was spent on it, but I do know how evasive le mot juste can be and how easy to rationalize can be one's attempts in tracking it down. I note especially your careful avoidance of the more standard idiom - pardon me, but I can't help observing the fact, having a Masters in English myself - that you chose not to reference the "dust bin" but the "ash heap." Of course, to non-British readers, perhaps "the ash heap" registers more readily. Or perhaps did you intend something more? There have been, after all, those in history who have suggested that laws attested in Holy Writ be ultimately relegated to "the ash heap" - and perhaps you meant purposefully to ascend to their ranks? [...]
You write further in your decision that '[w]e as a people are better than what these laws represent" - with "these laws" referring to enactments such as Pennsylvania's Defense of Marriage Act, passed in 1996. Here, I'm afraid, I must beg to disagree. Saint Paul tells us that marriage between a man and a woman is a type of the relation which Christ has to His Church. Whether you agree with me that that Man was divine, you must certainly admit that there's a certain beauty to Saint Paul's assertion in this regard. Yet, as I look around the world today, I don't see that beauty reflected in marriage. Men and women don't seem to bear the same manner of commitment in approaching marriage as Christ bore on his way to the Golgotha. They don't seem to be willing to commit 'til death do them part, or to the sacrificial and self-giving love exemplified in Christ's outpouring on the Cross. They seem much more apt to prefer their own advancement, their own good, than the good of the other - to say nothing of the good of the only-as-yet-imagined others that might spring from their sexual union, their children. Sex is for their benefit first, and not ordered toward the good of others. And so when it results unexpectedly in a new life, it seems to be the case that often one or the other - and I'm ashamed to say, it is most usually the man - will run from the obligation implied in the act of depositing his or her seminal biological potential into an equation outside of his or her complete management. Thus, we have "dead-beat dads" and so many other social ills.
In the face of such problems, I am inclined to think that we need, if anything, to bolster the notion that sexual congress demands commitment, that responsibility to the consequences of one's sexual actions are demanded by the choice to engage in those actions. I am also inclined to think that we grow stronger as a society to the extent that men and women accept such responsibility and do not look at the first opportunity to pass it on to the broader population. And I am finally inclined to think that there is no better way of maintaining and communicating such expectations than promoting the institution of marriage.
Joe’s letter is superb; I hope you will go and read the whole thing.

I am afraid I am not capable of writing such a letter to the judge myself, not only because I am not a resident of Pennsylvania, but also because such a letter would require me to pretend to respect the judge.  And I don’t respect him.  Under that black robe is the soul of a political prostitute, a charlatan who cares nothing for law or justice and everything for the prevailing winds of political opinion.  At least when Richard Rich sold his soul for the praise and acclaim of the powerful and pretty, he got Wales in the bargain.  Jones doesn’t even get Pennsylvania, and I have to think that those American Humanist banquets are more along the lines of appropriate punishment than any sort of reward.  But maybe, if he grovels and spins and bootlicks and toad-eats just a bit more, he’ll be invited to play himself on some upcoming episode of Modern Family, or something.  Which would be just about the most fitting reward for his service I can imagine.

The wicked pro-gay marriage culture of stupidity rolls on apace.  But the craven and the evil and the stupid have been trying to destroy virtue ever since a certain Crucifixion, and they won’t succeed now, either.  Their victories will all be Pyrrhic and their celebrations short-lived.

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

Back on Facebook

Well, I'm back on Facebook!

And if you go to my Tales of Telmaja blog, you can find the nifty Facebook button along with the super-neat email and Amazon(tm) buttons my talented oldest girl and her super-sweet aunt made for me.  'Cause I'm hopeless at this stuff. :)

Visit the Tales of Telmaja Facebook page if you're a fan of the book series!  And check back for updates on the editing of Book Three, the completion of the first draft of Book Five (soon, I hope!) and other important information for Smijj fans and Telmaj followers. :)