For the record, I didn't think Danielle would disagree with the use of NFP; she has written before on the topic. I was intending to discuss the fact that in the context of the post the phrase is unclear, and leads one to expect that both the humility and the heroism come from not attempting to limit one's family size even when one is already choosing between food for the family and the baby's prescription. If I misunderstood her point or misread it, I apologize.
I do, however, disagree with this paragraph from the post:
We need to be very careful when we talk about “responsible parenthood.” All too often, this phrase leads to the idea of preventing pregnancy as the default mode for Catholic marriages. In this way of thinking, couples must meet certain criteria, financial or otherwise, before they are “allowed” to have children. I can think of many words to describe this kind of thinking, but not one of them is “Catholic.”The Church herself speaks of "responsible parenthood." The Church also speaks of "generous parenthood." In fact, balancing the demands of responsibility and generosity are what make the prudential decisions difficult at times for individual couples and families.
But nobody ever says we need to be "careful" when we speak about "generous parenthood." Nobody ever says we must guard against hurting the feelings of the infertile, of those who are prevented by medical conditions or mental conditions or financial conditions from adding to their families, whether temporarily or permanently. Nobody warns against creating the false impression that striving to achieve every physically possible pregnancy is the default setting for a good Catholic marriage and that only the most dire of circumstances will be acceptable before the couple is "allowed" to use NFP.
Nobody says there's anything wrong with presenting all large families as "humble and heroic" while whispering that small families are "contraceptive-mentality and selfish" without knowing the circumstances of either; nobody seems to find any impropriety in demanding the most personal details from those with small families as "proof" that they're not using NFP "contraceptively" while insisting that large families should never be burdened by even a discussion of general principles relating to finances and the acceptance of government aid (which, to be fair, has nothing to do with family size; there are rich people with twelve children and impoverished families with two, after all).
So again, Danielle, I'm sorry if I misunderstood. I disagree with the notion that anything the Church teaches us is off limits for discussion, however, or needs to be addressed "very carefully," provided no one is judging individual couples whatever the circumstances.
And on the subject of responsible and generous parenthood, that goes for both sides.