We've been through this before so many times.
A decade or so ago, the trendy agenda-driven studies came out to tell us all, breathlessly, that despite what everybody would always assume it turned out that day-care was so good for kids that those poor children being raised by stay-at-home moms were actually being deprived, and were not as well-adjusted as the kids getting on the little white day-care bus every morning, or being dropped lovingly off by two-career "quality-parenting" experts!
But then, later, some details came out, and the sample size was too small to be significant, and the stay-at-home moms may have been of lower socieoeconomic or educational status than the two-parent families, and that darned intern forgot to carry into the tens column in this one group of figures, and anyway, it turned out that the study authors' definition of "well-adjusted" meant "children who are able to name the entire cast of Barney, Sesame Street, and Caillou: Adventures in Juvenile Canadian Socialism. (Okay, okay, I know, but that's what it should be called.)
In the newest iteration of the game of "I can be even more politically-correct and daringly relevant than you!" we have a study purporting to show that a couple of lesbian parenting partners are so amazingly, incredibly good at raising well-adjusted children that they leave their heterosexual counterparts in the dust, raising questions about just why God didn't, in His infinite wisdom, foresee this and make lesbian sex acts reproductive, or select parthenogenesis as the means of human reproduction, or something. But it turns out that the study's notion of "well-adjusted" might not be everyone's, as this terrific essay points out:
“Gender nonconformity” used to be considered a negative trait, something, which if found, provided an argument against same sex parenting. But listen to Stacey and Biblarz turn “gender flexibility” into a positive trait.
- “Twelve-year-old boys in mother only families (whether lesbian or heterosexual) did not differ from sons raised by a mother and a father on masculinity scales but scored over a standard deviation higher on femininity scales. Thus growing up without a father did not impede masculine development but enabled boys to achieve greater gender flexibility.”
- “If, as we expect, future research replicates the finding that fatherless parenting fosters greater gender flexibility in boys, this represents a potential benefit. Research implies that adults with androgynous gender traits may enjoy social psychological advantages over more gender traditional peers.”
And there are studies (though not the sort the pro-gay side ever accepts) which show, among other things, that children raised by homosexual parents are more likely to experiment with homosexual sex or to identify as homosexual than the general population:
Even though they attempted to argue otherwise, Golombok and Tasker's study revealed in its results section a clear connection between being raised in a lesbian family and homosexuality: "With respect to actual involvement in same-gender sexual relationships, there was a significant difference between groups...None of the children from heterosexual families had experienced a lesbian or gay relationship." By contrast, five (29 percent) of the seventeen daughters and one (13 percent) of the eight sons in homosexual families reported having at least one same-sex relationship.58
These findings have most recently been confirmed in a study appearing in the American Sociological Review. Authors Judith Stacey and Timothy J. Biblarz alluded to the "political incorrectness" of their finding of higher rates of homosexuality among children raised in homosexual households: "We recognize the political dangers of pointing out that recent studies indicate that a higher proportion of children of lesbigay parents are themselves apt to engage in homosexual activity."
Stacey and Biblarz also reported "some fascinating findings on the number of sexual partners children report," that: The adolescent and young adult girls raised by lesbian mothers appear to have been more sexually adventurous and less chaste. . . . In other words, once again, children (especially girls) raised by lesbians appear to depart from traditional gender-based norms, while children raised by heterosexual mothers appear to conform to them.59 (Footnote sources at link--E.M.)
Bear in mind that Stacey and Biblarz are the authors of the present study crowing over the superiority of lesbian parenting--so, apparently, being "well-adjusted" in 21st century America involves both gender "flexibility" (or confusion, depending on your viewpoint) and a greater willingness than one's counterparts to engage in same-sex sexual experimentation.
Since that's the case, I'm glad my children aren't so "well-adjusted" as all that. I'll keep on muddling along as a poor benighted heterosexual stay-at-home mom. But it's just as well--even when they were really little, my kids thought Caillou was an annoying little brat.