Monday, July 5, 2010

Brief blog break

Brief blog break as we do some much-needed cleaning out and reorganizing around here!

Back soon--but in the meantime, let me ask this question of my regular readers: if I were to write a post soon discussing the subject of attachment parenting in a somewhat critical way, would you be:

a) interested
b) outraged, or
c) indifferent?

Please do answer in the combox, if you have time; whether I decide to write the post or not may depend on the feedback I get here.

Thanks!

26 comments:

Jen said...

I'd be very interested, Erin. Anyone who hold AP to be such a sacred cow that they can't handle criticism has larger issues.

We have a terrible problem with going to extremes in this country. It's either/or... NEVER both/and.

I bought in to the AP line once upon a time but have since moderated my approach. We're on child number three and I *think* I'm finally getting a clue.

I use slings, wraps and the like... and we also use "plastic" strollers. We co-sleep... and use a crib. We smack on the hand (gasp!) when a child is old enough to know what "no" means and go ahead anyway.

There is no one perfect way to raise a child. Just because something is done in Africa/China/Chile doesn't mean it fits the lifestyle of a woman in an industrialized society.

I'm very interested to hear your take. We make a terrible mistake in thinking there's one perfect way to do such things. Different strokes, as they say.

Daddio said...

I'd be interested just to watch the fur fly in the combox!

Anonymous said...

from Scotch Meg

Well, I guess I'd be somewhere between interested and indifferent. My kids are past the age where people talk about parenting formulae and mostly just try to survive with their relationship to their child intact... so, in a theoretical way, it may be interesting, but not in a practical way.

Jen @ Happy LIttle Homemaker said...

I think I would have to agree with Jen. We do the pieces that work for us, but like Jen, "gentle discipline" seems to be about worthless.

Maureen said...

Oh yeah, definitely interested. We have a 3 1/2, 2 1/2 and almost 8 mth old and we do what works for our family (as in no set style), even if it does raise eyebrows.

Kim said...

A)Interested, of course!
I'm on child #5, and like some of the other commenters, my parenting strategies now tend towards the pragmatic. :)
But I would love to hear your thoughts/experiences!

Anonymous said...

Have several friends who follow this "method". With the exception of one family, all the others have uncontrollable kids - they are never mistaken for the homeschooling families that they are. Yes, I would be interested to see your take and the take of your readers.

Mary Poppins NOT said...

I would be interested. I have had the experience that hard core AP families have frazzled, guilt ridden mothers and demanding and poorly behaved children. But that is just me. I don't know any hardcore AP parents with older children, so either the fad hasn't been around long enough to see teens raised this way, or parents give up on it before their kids get that old. I know lots of families that use some AP techniques, and modify as needed to suit their particular families. This seems to have better results. I have seen strict, authoritarian parents, and while their children are well behaved, a certain "spark" is missing from the kids. So, lest I write my own article in your com box, I'll look forward to seeing what you have to say.

Anonymous said...

I'd be interested. With a feverish baby and no air conditioner, I've been feeling a bit too attached lately.

--Elizabeth B.

Dawn by Design said...

I'm a lot like Jen, and I could have written her comment myself.

I'd be interested but on a practical level I'd warn you against it. I'd love to hear what you have to say but am worried nothing would be accomplished.

I, however, am becoming jaded towards conversations in general so don't pay my cynicism any mind.

Sr. Claire said...

As a religious sister, I am interested in all aspects of the discussion and all opinions because being well informed can only enrich my contact with local families.

annef said...

oh dear, the post isn't even written yet and someone is associating uncontrollable kids with AP and homeschooling... think I'll steer clear of this one. I think every family just needs to figure out what works best for them. I actually enjoy this blog because you're a Catholic mom who generally writes about things other than parenting.

freddy said...

I'd be interested, of course!

Deirdre Mundy said...

Interested--- In that jab-and-feint, keep hitting refresh sort of way.:)

Though, frankly, even though I do the AP thing (at least in terms of nursing on demand, co-sleeping, and taking the baby everywhere unless I leave him with daddy), I'm not really a zealot... Apparently I don't do it right, since for me it's also 'Lazy Parenting' and 'Parenting on the cheap.'

But your forays into 'mommy-blogging' are always fun, ESPECIALLY since you have a different crowd of readers from most mom-blogs, and so we get a more varied discussion.

In fact, I already feel like arguing with some of the commentors, but I'll hold back until your official post! :)

Also, with respect to the survey-- write whatever you want--I enjoy reading you anyway! :)

Siarlys Jenkins said...

I'm not up on the latest fad terms in any of the social sciences, but I'd be interested in any common sense post dissecting the benefits and harms.

I am quite convinced that human beings are so diverse and so complex (each of us, individually) that no theory of parenting can possibly be right for all families, all parents, all children, all the time. They may each have some uses, for some of us, sometimes.

LarryD said...

Write a post on 'Detachment Parenting', where parents just kinda ignore their kids and act all apathetic-like, because I find that topic interesting and...ah, never mind. I actually don't care...

Charlotte (Waltzing Matilda) said...

Deirdre,
I think you will find, as I have, that what we call "attachment parenting" (co-sleeping, baby carrying, nursing on demand) really doesn't cut the mustard when it comes to what the hard core AP people consider to be AP.

Red,
Count me as interested.

Charlotte said...

Yes, please write on it. Please give an overview of what it is, since I am always confused about it.

But I do have to say that the people I do know or associate with AP are the most annoying folks ever. What I do know/understand of it, I completely disagree with.

Anonymous said...

I'm interested in what you have to say. But you do realize that if you are going to be critical in any way (not that it would bother me), you will probably have a bunch of angry mommies pound on you.

And after Charlotte's (Waltzing Mathilda) description of AP, I'm kind of afraid of what "hardcore" AP is. Not cutting the cord at all?

Happy cleaning!

Deirdre Mundy said...

Charlotte (WM) --I know I'm not hardcore enough for a lot of people-- for one, I don't have a PHILOSOPHY. I just hate it when infants cry and try to set up the world so that they don't cry often! :) (Toddlers and preschoolers are another matter entirely... If they're not crying at least once a day, I'm probably not doing my job. For instance, today we had many tears because of that pesky 'no drawing on the walls' rule....)

I am kind of odd in that I don't rush the kids to sleep through the night... because I'm too lazy for NFP, and nursing at night spaces my kids nicely..... but that's back to my whole philosophy of 'Lazy parenting.'

Though I'm not above using AP as an excuse to avoid letting people walk off with my newborn!

I am looking forward to the 'hardcore' folk sweeping in. I know I'm already considered weird because I....vaccinate. On schedule..... and I don't even AGONIZE about it.....

Anonymous said...

I'm not sure what is meant by the terms 'attachment parenting', 'AP' or maybe it's like 'imprinting' like for ducks? But, anyway, the discussions are always interesting, and I'm sure to learn something new and develop an opinion about it.

JMB said...

Yes, I would be interested in a sidelined sort of way. My oldest is 15 and my youngest is 8. We kind of missed the big AP thing with the first, and by the time I had our last child, I was in survival mode. I like Larry D's suggestion of Detachment Parenting! Anything counter-intuitive intrigues me.

Rebecca in CA said...

I would be interested in your comments on parenting; I'm interested in all your ideas. With regard to AP though I would caution you to address exactly the issues you want to address and not necessarily label a certain set of things as "AP", since different folks have different definitions of that. I'm not sure if my meaning is clear...anyway I really like to discuss parenting matters and I find such discussions are often very fruitful.

Carrie said...

I would be very keenly interested. I'm brand new to parenting, so I'd love to read your article, and the responses. I had to look up "attachment parenting" to even know what it referred to - now that I know, I would really like to hear your opinion of it!

Alice said...

*delurks*
As my almost two year old would say, "Peeease!" (write it). Although I think I practice AP for the most part, I try to avoid gatherings with the evangelical APers. The combination of frazzled moms and bratty kids is just depressing.

Acerbica said...

Do it!