It is, of course, a profoundly evil act to manufacture a child outside of the loving human relationship of a man and a woman. Let me be clear: it is a profoundly evil act to do so regardless of the sexual orientation or sex habits of the people involved. It is every bit as evil for a heterosexual couple to pay for the genetic material sold by a reproductive prostitute--male or female--in order to manufacture a child as it is for a homosexual couple to do so. It is every bit as evil for a heterosexual couple to rent the womb of a surrogate reproductive prostitute as it is for a homosexual couple to do so. And what goes for couples goes for the intentionally single people as well, who want all of the experiences of parenthood without bothering to make a committment to an adult of the opposite sex.
Perhaps you think the term "reproductive prostitute" is too strong. I don't. We call people who sell themselves sexually "prostitutes," after all. Selling or "donating" the eggs or sperm, or renting the womb space to incubate a child, is a kind of prostitution as well--the kind in which the object is not brief sexual pleasure, but reproduction. Reproductive prostitutes are selling their children's natural right to be raised by their own biological parents to other people. The lesbian mom who uses "donor" sperm, the homosexual men who pay a woman for her eggs and space in her main reproductive organ, the heterosexual infertile couple who pays for either or both of these things--all are colluding in the denial of the child's natural and fundamental human right to know and be raised by both of her biological parents.
When children are denied this right in the course of their lives, we call this a tragedy. If a parent dies, if a parent abandons his or her children, if a child's parents fail her repeatedly such that she is moved from foster home to foster home until her parents' rights are terminated--we recognize that harm has been done to the child, a kind of harm that runs so deep that it may manifest in serious mental or emotional problems throughout that child's life. In the case of a parent's death, of course, no one sought to harm the child--but harm may occur anyway, and the surviving parent usually takes steps to mitigate the harm by providing counseling, spiritual help, and other ways to deal with the natural grieving process. In the case where a parent has abandoned the family, the innocent spouse may work very hard to minimize the damage, and may struggle with the heavy cross of single parenthood. In the case of parents who fail the child, harm may have been deliberate, or it may have been unintentional--yet the child is hurt, and hurt badly, by the failure of the parents she loves to provide her with what she most needs from them--a stable, loving home with both parents present.
But in the case of "donor assisted" reproduction, a child is being manufactured in a laboratory with the deliberate intention of keeping him or her from being raised by either his/her own biological father, or his/her own biological mother--and sometimes, both. The idea that this may harm the child is brushed aside. Children don't need their own mothers and fathers! cry the post-gender anti-heteronormative enthusiasts. Children have become the ultimate consumer product.
I highly recommend that everyone interested in this issue read this whole article. It's long, but well worth the read. Some highlights:
How terribly sad that is! Can anyone read that and not understand how profoundly evil it is to manufacture a child, creating one like a consumer product, totally removed from the loving human relationship from which children are supposed to result?
NEW YORK — Katrina Clark and Lindsay Greenawalt have much in common. Bright women in their 20s, raised by single mothers, keenly curious about the men whose donated sperm helped give them life.
Clark's search for her father succeeded after only a month, though with a bittersweet aftermath. Greenawalt is still searching, seven years after she started — persisting despite doubts and frustrations.
"I've dreamt of you since I was a little girl," Greenawalt wrote to her unknown dad in a Father's Day blog posting in June. "There are so many things I want to know about you." [...]
Since 2008, Greenawalt, 25, has been chronicling her quest on a blog, "Confessions of a Cryokid." One of the most wrenching entries came last Thanksgiving, when she addressed the oft-repeated refrain that donor-conceived children ought to be grateful they were born.
"If I had to choose between being conceived with half of my identity and half of my kinship deliberately denied from me for eternity — or never being born — I'd choose never being born," she wrote. "We were created to carry a loss. A loss that no human being should have to endure."
The American Society for Reproductive Medicine, which represents many sperm banks and fertility clinics, encourages parents of donor-conceived offspring to tell their children the truth about their conception.
But it does not favor banning anonymous donations, saying the children's rights must be balanced against the interests of donors and the parents who will raise the child.
"The bottom line in the U.S. — we've always been big proponents of individual rights in regard to procreation," said Andrea Braverman, who serves on the ASRM's ethics committee. "We've always taken the approach that we get our own choices in terms of how we build and manage our families."
"Build and manage...?" Again, how evil this is! Families are supposed to arise from the natural bonds of love between husband and wife, and the children with whom God blesses them. Now, apparently, a family is something you can "construct" artificially, by paying a reproductive prostitute or two to provide you with the genetic material and/or womb space you can't provide yourself.
A past president of the Society for Assisted Reproductive Technologies, Dr. Jamie Grifo of New York University's Fertility Center, said heavy emphasis on the rights of a child wouldn't always work in the realm of donor-assisted conception.
"It may not be a popular point of view, but when these decisions are made by donor and a parent, the child doesn't have a say," he said. "If the contract is for it to be anonymous, it should remain anonymous, and the child just has to deal with that."
Do I need to repeat the phrase, "...profoundly evil act...," or does Dr. Grifo's ugly, dismissive attitude toward the children really say it all?
Though the article referenced above focuses on the situation of children conceived by donor sperm, the situation is the same if the eggs of an anonymous donor are used, or if both the eggs and the womb of a surrogate are used. In any case, a child is being manufactured, and the idea that harm may result--though we recognize the harm when any other loss of a biological parent ensues!--is brushed aside as a trivial concern, not nearly as important as the satisfaction and happiness of the adults involved.
This is, in a manner of speaking, a demonic inversion of the normal family. In a normal family, the needs of the adults are put aside in favor of the needs of the children. But in a situation (and again, whether this involves heterosexual couples, homosexual couples, or manufactured single parenthood) in which children are seen and desired as goods which will enhance the lives of the adults, not seen and desired as unique human beings in their own rights who have the right, tragedy aside, to be raised by their own biological parents, the needs of the adults come first--and the children will simply have to "deal with" never knowing their own father, or their own mother, or even (in the case of homosexual or intentional single parents) what it is to have a father or a mother at all.
Our sick, perverse culture claps its hands at the idea of "building and constructing" families, as if children were construction materials to be bought and sold, instead of human beings of innate, infinite, and immortal value. Since a strong, healthy society can't be build on the crumbling idiocy of "manufactured" families, it won't be long until ours collapses under the weight of its own egregious stupidity.