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Marriage statistics today are very alarming. In 1974 there were just over 400,000 marriages in Catholic Parishes. In 2004 there were 197,000 marriages. Currently of women under 35, only 40% have ever been married . Seventy percent of African American women and fifty-one percent of Hispanic women are currently unmarried. Forty-five percent of white women (non-Hispanic) and forty percent of Asian women are unmarried 
These alarming statistics don’t mean they aren’t having babies and nationally more than 40 percent of all children are raised by single mothers. The numbers are higher in most minority categories.
Explanations vary, from the higher economic independence of women, to (seemingly endless) college study programs, to poverty etc. Few of the studies I tracked reference promiscuity,which I think is a big factor. Why get married when when of the important reasons to do so (respectable recourse to a great physical pleasure) has been “put on sale” for cheap and is considered “respectable” under almost any circumstances by a promiscuous culture?
Another factor, as I have discovered in some 24 years of priesthood is that, despite our over all cynicism about most things, most people, especially women, remain highly idealistic about marriage and think it should be a kind of perfect society. Yes, wine and roses, candlelight dinners, high romance, the storybook, “happily ever” after version. Crying babies, dirty laundry, weight gain, frayed nerves…please, we’ll have none of THAT in this fantasy.
But the problem with unrealistic expectations is that they breed resentment, when the reality does not measure up. There is an old saying, “Unrealistic expectations are premeditated resentments.”
For instance, most good Catholic young men and women would agree that the vocation of marriage includes the vocation toward becoming parents under most circumstances (God may say otherwise through the cross of infertility, but this is not something most young men or women would know before marriage anyway). But how many young Catholic couples see eye-to-eye when it comes to children, parenting, etc.? When I was a student more than two decades ago at two different uber-Catholic colleges, I was shocked at how many good Catholic Mass-going college boys openly expressed the desire for wives who would "work," insisting that child-care was no big deal and that stay-at-home mothering was nothing more than a refuge for the lazy. (To be fair, one gentleman of Italian heritage said the opposite: that he would want his wife to quit working the minute they got married, because it's hard enough to run a household even before the children came along--I sincerely hope he found his true love!) As I said, the attitude of the other Catholic gentlemen shocked me, because the view that raising children is such an unimportant task that it can be outsourced to the cheapest "help" one can hire so one's wife can help one achieve the dream of wealth and financial success is not exactly the view of the Church.
This view, of course, is not limited to men; many Catholic men express a desire to find a wife who would be willing to put her career ambitions on hold for a time for the sake of children, only to learn that the women he meets have been told so often that even if they marry, the marriage will probably end in divorce, so they have to "protect" themselves by having a good career and can't "afford" to be stay-at-home moms that they aren't even willing to consider a life for their potential children that doesn't include daycare from six weeks of age followed by very early preschool. Some of these women have the attitude that devoting themselves to raising their children would be "wasting" their lives, an attitude that is certainly prevalent in the secular culture.
Another issue is that some young men and young women don't seem to realize that marriage (like every vocation) is for the salvation of the couple themselves and for that of their potential children as well as for those whom their lives touch. Marriage, in other words, is not a mere combining of households, goods, and routines, but is fundamentally rooted in the shared Christian life of the couple entering it. Two people are called, essentially, to stop being mere autonomous individuals and to learn to put the Beloved Other first in all things. Marriage is not, by any means, an instantaneous or magic cure for selfishness or self-centeredness, but it is ordered toward helping each member root those vices out of themselves as they work toward becoming what the act of marriage itself points to: two becoming one. A husband or wife who remains selfish and insists on having the world revolve around himself or herself is not experiencing the fullness of the vocation of marriage, but is holding back some integral part of himself or herself from the totality of the gift of self to other. That, I think, is at the root of many (if not most) marital problems, whether on the surface those problems seem to be about money or children or extended family or sex or work or any other thing: in reality, what is going on is that one spouse is demanding that his or her whims and wishes be catered to in some area without any real effort made to understand or appreciate the wishes of the other. For young people who have yet to enter marriage and who live in a world that tells them ceaselessly to put their own interests first, even laying aside the "self" long enough to get to know the "other" in a real and authentic way can be a daunting task.
To look at this issue another way, here's the reality for many serious young Catholics today:
--Many of them would prefer to marry a fellow Catholic;
--Many of them would prefer that fellow Catholic to be living the faith, attending Mass and going to Confession, and not living a life at odds with morality or virtue;
--Many of them wish that potential Catholic spouse to share their ideas about what marriage is, what it is for, and how to live it;
--Many of them, even if they meet these first criteria, struggle with the world's ideas about children and child-raising, what marriage is, how to root out selfishness and learn to live as a truly united couple instead of two wholly autonomous people struggling for mastery, etc.
It's hard enough to find a potential spouse who takes the faith seriously, is not at odds with the Church about fornication or contraception, understands what the Church means when she speaks about marriage as a vocation, etc. To add to that the importance of being on the same page with what marriage is and how to live it is to add, some would say, the impossible.
But it's not impossible. Many of the Catholic couples I know are happy to be living marriage as a blessed vocation (myself included). Young single Catholics should know that even if they have to learn to lay aside their "ideals" about what their husband/wife should look like or do for a living etc., they should never settle for someone who doesn't share the Church's ideas about the vocation of marriage.