Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Good parenting, bad parenting, circa 2014

This is going to be one of those Fairly Brief Posts.  But that's because there's not really much to say.

Consider, that in our world today, this is considered good parenting:
The mother of a transgender child wants the Saskatchewan government to remove any record of a person's sex on birth certificates.

Fran Forsberg has filed a complaint to Saskatchewan's Human Rights Commission on behalf of her six-year-old child, Renn, after the province's Vital Statistics Agency refused to change Renn's sex designation from "Male" to "Female" on the youngster's birth records. [...]

Renn's big brother, Tana, 9, isn't transgender but likes to experiment with girl's clothing. He wears costumes and wigs to church and once entered a drag queen competition. He has also posed as a girl on posters and billboards for the "Pink Revolution" campaign, which is intended to educate people about different gender presentations.

While this is considered bad parenting:
A long-running child custody case took a dramatic turn Tuesday, when a Massachusetts juvenile court judge awarded “permanent” custody of teen-ager Justina Pelletier to the state Department of Children and Families. [...]

Johnston wrote that the parents called Boston Children’s Hospital personnel Nazis “and claimed the hospital was punishing and killing Justina. Efforts by hospital clinicians to work with the parents were futile and never went anywhere.”

More recently, he wrote, “there has not been any progress by the parents. Rather, the parents ... continue to engage in very concerning conduct that does not give this court any confidence they will comply with conditions of custody.” He noted that because of allegations that Justina’s father, Lou Pelletier, threatened a state social worker assigned to the case, the worker had to be reassigned.
The Pelletiers' crime of "bad parenting", for those who don't know, is objecting to the fact that even though they are citizens of Connecticut, the Massachusetts DCF and Boston Children's Hospital seized custody of their daughter, declared that her medical problems which had been diagnosed elsewhere were psychiatric, refused to let her former doctors see her, discontinued her former therapy and treatments, and refuse to let her go home.  She has been in DCF custody for 14 months now, and though she is Catholic, she is not being allowed to attend Mass or receive religious services or support.  She has also been given no education or schooling while in state custody.  But the Pelletiers were accused of "medical child abuse" for believing Justina's former doctor and following his treatment advice, and thus disagreeing with BCH about her case when BCH insisted that she has somatoform disorder, not a physical medical condition.

So, to sum up: caring about your child's symptoms of physical illness, taking her to doctors, and following those doctors' advice to the point of disagreeing when some other doctor who isn't a specialist and has never even seen your child before a single interaction declares that her illness is all in her head makes you a bad parent, circa 2014; but encouraging your boys to cross-dress and demanding that your three-year-old's gender be changed on his birth certificate because he likes to dress like his older sister and his cross-dressing brother makes you a good parent, circa 2014.

And we've always been at war with Eurasia.


John InEastTX said...

The fact that the State of Massachusetts took custody of the child supports your argument that the associated circumstances are considered 'bad parenting', but what exactly about the Canadian case supports your claim that those circumstances are considered 'good parenting'?

PonyPam said...

Um, what, John?

You do realize that she's being sarcastic, right? That the parents in Canada who do not seem to realize that God determines the sex of a child (in nearly every single case of a child being born, true hermaphrodites being extraordinarily rare), and so these parents who want to deny their children's sexuality are NOT good parents? That the parents of Justine Pelletier are in fact fantastic parents, whose right and duty to care for their daughter are being unjustly and immorally thwarted by the state of Massachusetts?

Or are you getting that the Pelletiers are good parents, but you also think that Ms. Forsberg is a good parent?